Typical Teens

When I went to LA, my plans were to relax... do absolutely nothing.

Sister had decided otherwise.

As I've mentioned several times before, my sister and I are very, VERY different. We don't look alike. We don't act alike. Basically the only things we have in common are our family and dress/shoe size.

It used to just be our family but with Body for Life and her trainer Barry, Sister has changed her body and lifestyle.

Now it's time for more, and more involves Barry. They've been hanging out lately and Sister is unsure of what's going on. She's a bit conservative, even more old-fashioned... shy.

Me: not so much.

My mission: Get the scoop on Barry.

Sister scheduled a training session for me. I was dreading it because I haven't properly worked out in a couple months, but Barry was easy-going and great.

I chatted him up about everything from personal training to travel. I talked about myself. I flirted. I succeeded in my mission.

Afterwards, my sister invited Barry to join us for dinner. While we waited for him at the restaurant I gave her the scoop. Barry likes chicks, he is just incredibly shy.

He has never been married. He isn't aggressive with women. He is just a really nice guy. I got the impression that he might have been a dork in high school. He doesn't really know how to act around women

The other day when Sister called to tell me he made her a mix cd, that pretty much confirmed my thoughts. He's still a teenager (at 44).

Lucky for him, so is Sister. She gets giggly around him. She talks about her marriage to him.

Where will this go? I guess we'll have to wait and see. In the meantime, Sister needs to listen to the songs on that CD and see if they actually say anything.

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Riding the waves

Spring Semester 2002

In all of the confusing feelings I had about Hippie, it was very clear to me how much I was attracted to BlondEngineer. On a random wednesday night, he asked me to come over his place in the city. He is cooking for his friend's birthday and throwing a party. I told him I probably wouldn't make it since it's a school night.

Well I got my work done and squeezed in some gym time, so I hop on the train and head downtown. BlondEngineer was shocked to see me. He didn't think I was going to come... well I did and definitely made the most of the night. I met a bunch of people, ate some steak, broke a glass in a drunk stupor, etc, etc. It was getting close to midnight and I got ready to leave so I wouldn't miss the last train.

BlondEngineer would not let me leave. He even offered to pay for me cab. I was wasted and feeling good, plus I really didn't want to leave either. We got in bed and didn't really chat nor do anything. Finally BlondEngineer breaks the silence by saying he can't believe there is a girl in his bed and no hooking up going on. He tells me he wants to kiss me, but I play super hard to get until about 3am. Finally we start going at it, and I gotta say this was one of the most memorable hook-ups of my life.

No I didn't give away my virginity. That doesn't happen until 2003. The only detail I will give is this... it's a whole new experience on a waterbed.

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26

It seems young to most, old to some... nothing to me.

After I turned 21, age no longer mattered. As far as I'm concerned, every birthday is my 21st birthday.

What better way to spend my 21st than in wine country. Sister took me on a vineyard tour today. We had a blast! I will admit I was slightly concerned that I would be drinking alone while she stood around, but we managed to find some varietals that suited her palate... hence the 3 bottles of almond sparkling wine currently in her fridge... and my empty hands. (Stupid Massachusetts/Airline laws).

The day flew by, but not without plenty of pleasant surprises. I got wishes from all the girlz, the family, the boyfriend (yes fine I will finally admit we are bf/gf). I also received unexpected wishes from old college, high school and childhood friends with whom I haven't spoken in years.

I wasn't expecting much. In fact, I'm pretty thankful for what I get. So when we get back to my sister's apartment and there are 2 dozen purple roses for me from RedSox, I can't help but keep this shit-eating grin on my face for hours to come.

I've got a great life. At times, incredible stressful (ahem, boards last Friday)... but overall worth it.

I used to say (and will continue saying) that my only goal in life is to turn 21. For many years to come, I hope my 21st continues to be as great as it was today.

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Grease?

I've been watching One Life to Live on and off since childhood. When did soaps suddenly turn into musicals?

I just listened to Blair's daughter burst out into song; something about it not being easy on her freakin prom night... including choreography with other prom attendees.

What happened to the sex, lies and deception?

AAAAHHHH! It just happened again!!

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an unexpected relationship

Spring Semester 2002

Finally back after a winter break and straight to the first big party of the year, there he was... Hippie. I hadn't seen him since the end of last year.

I'll backtrack for a second. Sophmore year I became good friends with my neighbor HKJ. She was a label-whore/pothead from Hong Kong, and I loved everything about her. We quickly became friends and she started taking me to parties at the Swimmer/Sailor house. Going to that house felt weird for me. I didn't really know many of those people and they all kind of kept to themselves. That was about to change...

One night I'm there with HKJ and I start chatting it up with Hippie. He was adorable, great smile, nice guy, very comfortable to be around. Slowly but surely people started to leave the room, but we stuck around to keep talking. Suddenly we realized everyone was gone, so we went looking for them. Nobody was really around, but music was blaring in the empty ping-pong room. He asked if I wanted to dance, so we did... and then we started kissing.

I guess it was while kissing that people suddenly reappeared because practically everyone from upstairs made it a point to stop in the room and check us out. After kissing for a while, we finally broke apart. I went home and he went back upstairs to hang out with his friends.

The next morning, HKJ barges into my room. "You hooked up with Hippie!!! I can't believe it. Roxy, you don't understand. Hippie doesn't hook up with anyone. After you left, everyone was asking me about you. Who is Roxy? Where did she come from? How did she manage to get Hippie?"

I wasn't quite awake, but my reply was pretty typical. "What? Just another keg tapped and kicked." HKJ went on, "uh well I am ok with that, but you don't understand. Hippie is a great guy, and his friends are very protective of him. Just be aware of that."

Well, I was aware. That day I headed to the library to get my study on. It turned out a lot of the people from the Swimmer/Sailor house were there. As I walked by a couple of the girls, I heard whispers "That's HER!!" I didn't think anything of it. But then I ran across BlondDreads. This guy barely acknowledged my existence in the times I've met him through HKJ, and all of sudden "ROXY! So good to see you! Did you have fun last night? I'm glad you could come by."

Oddly, he wasn't the only one glad to see me. Throughout that day, everyone from the Swimmer/Sailor house made it a point to say hello to me with big smiles. It was weird, but I loved it.

Hippie and I started hooking up on a regular basis after that, but it wasn't all that great. I didn't think we were in a relationship, but his friends made it a big point to refer to me as Hippie's woman. They all made an extra effort to get to know me. They all would smile and say hi if we saw each other around campus. They ALL kept an eye on me and didn't like it if they thought I was flirting with other guys.

They all seemed to care so much about me and Hippie being together, and I got so caught up in the whole situation that *I* cared about being with Hippie... the only person who didn't care so much was Hippie...

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Play Nice

Fall Semester 2001

It was 4am when I finally decided to leave the Euro house and head home. I get online and see that KoreanDancer is still up. We do the online flirting thing, and then I head over to his place. We start going at it, but then things start moving too quickly and he's interested in sex. (Just a side not that I did NOT give away my virginity until 2003).

We kept going, but he kept on trying to have sex with me. Now I know most people would find that offensive, but I simply found it annoying. He doesn't know me that well, but he still wants to shag. Do I give that impression or is this just the typical male?

Well I said no, and he respected that. We did continue. and I gave him a blow job. I was shocked at how big his penis was. I think I'm gonna have an Asian fetish in the near future. The only problem I had was he stacked his bed damn near the ceiling. My head is bobbing up and down and when I get lost in the moment SMACK (back of head meets ceiling). I don't know how I didn't suffer a concussion.

Well I went home after that, but I still was slightly irked about the sex thing. The following night I went out for a night of partying and came home to once again find KoreanDancer online. Of course I'm drunk and looking for some ass, I'm also drunk and looking for a little revenge. I did, afterall, not get to resolve the whole sex issue.

So I went over to his apartment and played hard to get, leading him on for several hours. Finally I make him go down on me, telling him I'll return the favor when he's done. After I've had enough, I get up and go to the bathroom... but really I go home and let him blue ball his way to sleep.

It's all fun and games until you piss off Roxy.

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Roxy sure does LOVE blond hair

Fall Semester 2001

Classes end next monday and finals are a week later. But you know what's coming up right? NAKED CAMPUS RUN!! woo wooo... Third year in a row baby!! I know you all are excited because I'm gonna get nekked, cos I knoooow you all want me.

So speaking of wanting me, there is this guy named BlondEngineer. I actually met him over the summer. He is an engineer, blond, funny, blond, fun to chill with... and he has blond hair.

Anyways, we flirted quite a bit but never hooked up because he had a girlfriend. (Not that it should have mattered considering my behavior lately). A few weeks ago he and his girlfriend broke up and he instant messaged me to tell me. He has been IMing me ALL the time since.

I decided to play hard to get, and it's not because I didn't want to hook up with him. I actually didn't want to be his rebound. It has been tough though, especially when he keeps me on the phone for 2 hours trying to get me in a cab to come to his apartment in the city. So far it has been an endless cycle of cat and mouse between the two of us, but since we're single I can hook up with others in the meantime right? (let me finish this story and then I'll get to the others).

One night I end up going to a party in downtown Boston. I'm hanging out in my friend's room, when BlondEngineer walks in. He sees me and yells HEY. I say hi back... awkward pause... and then he leaves the room. I don't think anything of it and I continue flirting with a couple of guys at the party. Both of them give me their numbers before they leave.

I walked them out and went back up to my friends room, where low and behold BlondEngineer happens to be. He starts up a serious mack attack, but I flirt exactly the same way. It's a severe competition, and I'm shooting him down non-stop. Finally he gives up and leaves the room. Once again, I don't think anything of it and find someone else.

On my way to leave the party, I see BlondEngineer flirting with another girl. He introduces me and I chat her up like we've been best friends forever. He clearly gets annoyed because I'm not jealous. Finally I really need to get going, and BlondEngineer follows me out of the house. He asks to take me out and keeps pulling me towards him. He finally decides to try and kiss me but I turned the other cheek.

The next day I received an instant message that I broke his heart.

I may have broken his heart that night, but that is not the last of BlondEngineer...

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The Latest Scoop

When my doorbell rang, I thought I was finally getting my package of clothes from La Redoute. As I walked down to the front door I realized that La Redoute had never sent me a shipping confirmation email, so it couldn't be my order.

Then I thought maybe RedSox sent me flowers. He does that once in a while to brighten my hellish days of studying. Again, though, the florist usually calls to let me know I have a delivery.

Could the package be for Roomate? It's possible, but she is an intelligent person and would never order something for delivery while she is gone for a month.

I grab the package and see that it has been sent from Colorado. When I get upstairs, I open it to find a Colorado Avalanche t-shirt, a Denver Nuggets t-shirt and a Nuggets water bottle.

There is a card with a cat sitting in a litter box, asking me "What's the Latest Scoop?" Inside I read "Hope you get some mileage out of these gifts. Thinking of you, WhiteRapper."

I sent him a thank you email.

The latest scoop is that I'm still where I left off when he and I last spoke... I'm with RedSox... and WhiteRapper has no idea.

I have no excuse for not telling him about RedSox. The truth is I like to keep my options open, and I love the attention. Couldn't be a predator any other way.

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obDRESSion

Normally one would expect me to put this post in my shopping blog, Roxy Shops, but I had to write it here.

My break from studying used to be hitting the bottle, but when hangovers took away from the following day's study-time I realized I needed to replace my love for alcohol with a love for something else... at least temporarily.

Ok ok... I've always loved shopping, but now I'd say I might be addicted. In the last month alone, I have bought 4 dresses... and they are not cheap. So when I reached my credit card limit, I opted to just show my following great finds to RedSox and get his opinion.

It was fun, an activity we could share when not together. (I've had to limit our face time because of the boards). Today RedSox asked if he could stop by to say hi. Of course I agreed cos I had been up and at it since 6am.

When I hopped in his car to drive around the block a few times and chat, he handed me a surprise. This totally cute mini dress by Sky. I just discovered this brand, but the designs are no where to be found in Boston. Ok I haven't tried yet.

Anyways, I LOOOVE IT! As soon as I got back up to my apartment I instant-messaged Fashion Kitty, the one who introduced me to Sky. She was super excited for me, and I plan to wear it when I meet her in LA in a couple weeks.

Alrighty, happy shopping to you all!! Back to the books for me... until my next purchase.

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Homewrecker

Well I said a few posts ago that I would be on hiatus until Step 1 has been conquered, but I took the time to copy some very old emails from back in the day for your pleasure.

Let us begin...

Fall Semester 2001

Let me introduce you to the newest homewrecker... me. The last two guys I hooked up with have girlfriends.

One night my ID had been taken away at Sligos (yup... believe it), I was already wasted and I argued with the cop forever to try and get it back. It didn't work and I stumbled home. I went online to check my away message and immediately upon becoming active, my friend Matti IMs me. He is good friends with Hippie. He's like, "I wanna come over and hook up." So I'm like, "It's freaking 20 degrees below outside, come over."

I swear less than 2 minutes later my doorbell rings. Matti and I hooked up, and he slept over. He got up in the morning kissed me goodbye and left. At least I think that's what happened... so ridiculous, but I am a little worried. I don't want him to tell anyone. He is in the same group of friends as Hippie, and the drama that could ensue... Anyways, it turns out Matti has an on/off girlfriend. He tried to hook up with me again the following week, but I couldn't allow it.

Speaking of the following week, it happened to be Fall Formal. I didn't have a date, so I let a couple sorority girls hook me up. My date was BlondSailor... soooooooo hot. We drank it up, bringing a bag of wine on the party bus. We tore up the dance floor. We had such a blast and at the end of the night, he walked me home and made out with me on my front porch... forgetting all about his girlfriend. Oops!

I don't know how I attract these guys. Maybe it's because I give them a taste and then I'm done with them... kind of like tapas.

Anyways, I'm packing to go home for thanksgiving and Matti is asking if he could come over and keep me company in my bed. "I'm sorry keg, but you've been kicked."

The semester is almost over and what a ride it has been. Hippie is almost done with his semester abroad and he'll be back in January...

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The Problem with trying to please everyone

is that you just CAN'T. More than likely it will blow up at some point and you will look like the bad guy even though you were trying your darndest to make everyone happy.

Well unfortunately for me, I tried to make plans with my roomate to hang out with her before she left for her study abroad. Last week I thought we decided on Thursday since I would be going to my parents on Friday for my practice exam on Saturday. She thought we decided on Friday.

In a haste to fix everything I told her we would do lunch on Saturday, completely forgetting that RedSox was picking me up from my practice exam to go to the Sox/Yankees game. So today I ask her if we can do dinner instead. Unfortunately she already had dinner plans with her boyfriend, but the way she told me was almost like this is all my fault.

Well I felt bad, but I did try to coordinate schedules. After studying today, I checked out a condo with RedSox and he tells me that the game doesn't start until 3pm AND he has 2 extra tickets so I can invite Roomate and her boyfriend. I immediately called Roomate and left a voicemail. I didn't hear back from her, but she was home when I got home.

I told her that I left her a message and she cut me off to say that she just listened to it. Unfortunately she can't go because when I cancelled lunch plans, she went ahead and made other plans.

Again the way it was said, "well when you cancelled"... almost like "well if you hadn't screwed things up, maybe we coulda hung out."

Now I know I'm probably over-reacting, but that's why I'm writing it in my blog... because now that I've said it, I feel much better. I also realize that I should try not to please everyone when I should focus on my exam or better yet MYSELF.

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