Bankruptcy Details

So some of you expressed concern in your comments on my last post and I wanted to write this post to assure you all that I did not suddenly throw my education out the window and go with love only.

NotMexican told me about filing for bankruptcy very early in our relationship. His ex-wife cheated on him, left him and took all of his money with her. (I'm sure karma will reap plenty of rewards on that).

Anyway, NotMexican has a fantastic lawyer helping him through this and my main concern is not so much the bankruptcy but what happens after and how it will affect me.

Will he get a good job in Boston? Will he get into law school? How will we pay for law school? How will his bankruptcy affect my credit, getting an apartment, etc etc?

I shouldn't be as concerned as he has been preparing for this, but I haven't. I've never not had money. I've never been in debt. I always have my parents to back me up should I need them.

As for the ring, well I knew where to go in Boston to get the best deal... and yes I paid for the ring. NotMexican has already paid me almost half-way back so I'm not concerned... and hopefully you guys won't judge that.

And as for marriage, it sure ain't gonna happen without counseling. I constantly have to reassure NotMexican that I won't cheat on him... and well you all know my track record with this blog... so clearly both of us need the counseling.

Basically, he is the guy for me. I'll never get to be a Real Housewife of Boston, but I will have a wonderful, hard-working, loyal, God-fearing husband.

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Freak-Outs

I would hope it's normal to have freak-outs when you're making a monumental decision.

The proposal was sooner than expected, so i don't think I was mentally prepared for what it means to be engaged.

All of my decisions are now affected by the realization that I have to think for "us" instead of "me."

It's a scary thing to accept this.

So naturally... I freaked out. And it happened at one of my best friend's weddings last week.

I asked NotMexican if he really loved me during the reception... and that upset him so much. Poor timing in retrospect, but I can't predict these things.

He reassured me, but I felt badly into the next day. Unfortunately that made our NYC trip the worst. I couldn't get over my freak out and then everything that could go wrong that day... did.

Everything ended poorly, resulting ultimately in an argument... and we parted, he back to Denver and I back to Boston, in anger.

Normally, that for me would mean the end of a relationship.

Luckily, it resulted in a fresh start.

We talked it out while I was on the greyhound back to Boston and had a great conversation agreeing to disagree and agreeing to work with each other.

I feel even better about our future now because we have excellent communication and make changes as we can to help each other out.

But I'm about to have my next freak out... his impending bankruptcy.

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The Ring

even better than the ring I wanted!

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A Predator No More

It's official.

I'm engaged.

I went to Denver last weekend for NotMexican's birthday.

We were relaxing at his home and typical me was on the computer.

He came over to hug me, then he wouldn't let go.

I said, "Babe, I'm on the computer"

He kept hugging me and said "you're gonna be my wife right?"

"of course babe"

"you're gonna marry me right"

"of course babe" (as I'm still typing away on the computer)

"do I have to get down on one knee?"

"when the time comes, if you want to... do whatever" (still trying to type)

NotMexican is down on one knee.

I asked, "oh are you asking me now?"

He puts the ring on my finger and says yes.

"Well yes of course!"

And then he picked me up, took me to the bedroom and hugged me for a long time.... as I stared at my ring.

Picture of the ring to come soon!

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