So a couple weeks ago my mom came into town on the weekend. I thought it was to see a family member in the hospital, but she said she wanted to talk to me because she felt something was going on.
I told her I was having a hard time with residency, felt inadequate, blah blah. She encouraged me on that but then started pressing on my relationship with NotMexican. After a lot of questions about his finances, she directly asked if he was filing for bankruptcy.
How did she know?
I was honest. We talked about it. I told her what it meant... then she started pressing for me to tell dad.
I told her I tried and he didn't wanna know. She said he was probably drunk and that's no excuse. He needs to know.
I gave in and told him yesterday. He was very calm. In fact, it didn't seem to bother him.
But naturally I got a lecture.
Now... NotMexican and I have been having more conflict in our relationship. Admittedly, I've been questioning if I'm making a mistake.
I expected my parents to tell me I was making a mistake and try to get me to break it off, but all they asked was for the same things I've been asking from NotMexican.
1. Counseling- I was pushing for this before engagement.
2. Live together before marriage- heck yeah
3. Pre-nup- you bet your freaking a$$ to Mars (if that's even a phrase)
I thought this was amazing and wonderful because my parents only re-iterated what I felt I needed before a legal union, a business arrangement... marriage.
NotMexican took it the wrong way, which I didn't understand and repeatedly kept telling him how this was a good thing.
He calmed down and apologized and ultimately did agree (since he already agreed before)... and well, I'm still engaged.
For now...
First session with the counselor is Friday.
I told her I was having a hard time with residency, felt inadequate, blah blah. She encouraged me on that but then started pressing on my relationship with NotMexican. After a lot of questions about his finances, she directly asked if he was filing for bankruptcy.
How did she know?
I was honest. We talked about it. I told her what it meant... then she started pressing for me to tell dad.
I told her I tried and he didn't wanna know. She said he was probably drunk and that's no excuse. He needs to know.
I gave in and told him yesterday. He was very calm. In fact, it didn't seem to bother him.
But naturally I got a lecture.
Now... NotMexican and I have been having more conflict in our relationship. Admittedly, I've been questioning if I'm making a mistake.
I expected my parents to tell me I was making a mistake and try to get me to break it off, but all they asked was for the same things I've been asking from NotMexican.
1. Counseling- I was pushing for this before engagement.
2. Live together before marriage- heck yeah
3. Pre-nup- you bet your freaking a$$ to Mars (if that's even a phrase)
I thought this was amazing and wonderful because my parents only re-iterated what I felt I needed before a legal union, a business arrangement... marriage.
NotMexican took it the wrong way, which I didn't understand and repeatedly kept telling him how this was a good thing.
He calmed down and apologized and ultimately did agree (since he already agreed before)... and well, I'm still engaged.
For now...
First session with the counselor is Friday.