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Friday, 7 August 2009

"your treat?"

Posted on 17:58 by Unknown
I'd like to hear your thoughts on this:

So I've gone out with a few guys here in Denver who have paid for the first date. I think it's chivalrous and noble... and frankly I expect it because it's the right thing to do. My future sons will know better than to ever let a woman pay.

On a couple of occasions, I have gone out with men who have let me pay for my portion of the meal. That is totally fine. He's automatically been put into the friend category. Do you see my point of view coming across even more now?

I don't mind when I'm friends with a guy to pay my way. I do mind when I'm dating a guy. Until we're official, I believe he should court me.

Now here's my biggest problem and I need you all to tell me if I'm going overboard. Regardless of the relationship status, isn't it tacky/offensive/atrocious for a man to flat out ask a woman "so you're gonna get the next bill right?" or "next one is your treat?"

I don't care what is the underlying reasoning. I know it's valid and correct, but it's just so off-putting.

I put this guy Freddie into the friend category after the first date because I just wasn't attracted to him. We hung out a couple times after that date as friends; grilling steaks, playing Wii, hanging out with his friends and family. 

This week has been busy and he told me to let him know when I was free next. So I told him I'm free next week, let's grab pizza. And he said "sure... your treat?"

Now last time we hung out, we grilled. He bought the meat, but I offered to take him out for ice cream. I know there's a big price difference, but I can't get over this.

A man should NEVER ask a woman to pay. If she offers and he allows it, that's one thing. But seriously?

I'm really angered by this and I just don't wanna see Freddie ever again. Am I in the wrong? Does anyone else get me?

I can tell you for sure that my father thinks I'm correct. 

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